DAY 44 - HAPPY BIRTHDAY, DAD!

Dale and his little brother Jack

On October 14, 1916, my grandparents, Frances Evans and John Lewis Roe, gave birth to their first child, Dale Evans Roe. Dad grew up in Preston, Idaho, and was surrounded by family most of his early life.

   When he was only 14-years-old his mother died suddenly, leaving his father to raise three young boys alone. Grandpa was a very rough-and-tumble man – who had played Professional Baseball, rode for the Pony Express, and ran a newspaper (the Preston Citizen). Dad’s dad was ill-equipped to be a single father. My dad told me that one time Grandpa had a business trip to go on, so he took the three boys (age 10-15) up by the Bear River to Camp-Out while he was gone for a few days – he left them with blankets, a fishing pole, and a hunting knife. Fortunately Grandma’s sisters, especially Mary and Erma, helped out with the boys frequently – and Dad maintained close relationships with “The Aunts” for the rest of their lives.

The 3 Boys: Bryce, Jack, Dale

   Dale graduated from Preston High in 1933, at age 16 (he had skipped 7th grade with my mom) – and started at the “AC” (now known as Utah State University) immediately. He had always worked at The Citizen, and continued to do so – and commuted from Preston to Logan, usually by hitchhiking. He and a few friends had what we would call a “Crash Pad” nowadays where he would stay over during bad weather. He told me that they used to keep a “Community Pot” on the stove, and everyone would just throw what veggies/meat/etc. they could come up with – and they just kept the pot of soup going for days on end.

   While in college, Dad also started dating Mom. She worked at Merrill’s Drug in Preston, and he would often go visit her at work – where she would sneak extra Malted into his shakes. They were married in 1936 (see post here), and Dad graduated from Utah State Agricultural College in 1937 – he was 20-years-old.

Dale at the Preston Citizen

   When he was age 23, Dad bought out his grandfather’s half of the Preston Citizen – making him the youngest newspaper owner in Idaho history (at least at the time). His grandpa, Watkin Lewis Roe, had founded the Citizen, and Dad was 3rd generation in the newspaper business – and since many uncles and cousins have followed in this family tradition.

   When World War II started, Dad and his father decided that they should sell the Preston Citizen – knowing they would both be involved in the war effort. Dad had been assigned a Draft Number and it was only a matter of time before he would be Called Up. And Grandpa was an expert machinist (from fixing newspaper presses his whole life), so he wanted to help with the war effort also – ending up in San Diego, working on Navy Vessels.

   Since his Senior Year of high school, Dad had also worked for the American Red Cross – starting as a Life Guard. Dad could swim like a fish – and could basically do anything in water. So as the war began, Red Cross assigned Dad to do Survival Training at military bases around the country. He taught midshipmen how to jump off a Battleship (a 50-foot drop) without breaking their legs. He taught soldiers how to swim through lakes that the Japanese would set on fire. He was sent to Wendover, Utah, to train Doolittle’s Raiders those survival skills – no one knowing that their mission would so drastically change the course of the war.

Teaching lifesaving -- dad is far right (in plaid)

   Through all of WWII, Dad continued this training – waiting for his number to be called. He would be on a base doing the training, and he would get notification that his number had been called and he was to report immediately. He would go to the Base Commander and show his orders, and the Base Commander would say, “This training is too valuable. I will get your number reassigned.” During the course of the war Dad had dozens of Draft Numbers, each one reassigned. He spent the entire war on military bases training soldiers – and did it all as a civilian working for the American Red Cross. He was never drafted.

My father
Dale Evans Roe

   As you can tell, my dad was my hero. And he still is. I have never known a kinder or gentler man. He was brilliant, funny, and a fabulous writer. He greeted everyone he met as a friend, and considered strangers just friends he hadn’t met yet. Dad loved everyone, and was generous and giving of his time and talents. He was a spiritual giant, and truly emulated the Savior in the way he lived his life.

   Today would have been his 98th birthday, and even though he has been gone nearly 10 years I still miss him every single day. And I am so grateful that he and Mom were crazy enough to adopt a newborn at age 50 and let me be part of their lives.

   Happy Birthday, Dad!

DAY 33 - DONATE - because we can change the world one step at a time

A few days ago I helped a friend move, and he had a few things that he no longer wanted – so at the end of the day we loaded them into my truck. After a few days of furniture and electronics rambling around in the back of my truck, today I finally got around to running them down to the Donation Center. A couple of nice young men emptied the back of my truck, and then handed me a coupon as a Thank You.

   Donations are a great thing. It’s a great feeling to take something that no longer serves you to somewhere that it can be shared with someone else. And if you don’t know anyone personally, these Donation Centers all around can make sure that the benefit goes to help someone that really needs the help.

   I have long been a shopper of Thrift Stores – going back to my childhood. My mom always loved finding a bargain, and my dad’s office even had a Thrift Store in it. My dad worked for the American Red Cross for 49 years, and often (especially during the summer) on days that Mom had to work, Dad would just take me to the office with him. At age 5, I was the youngest Red Cross Volunteer on record – and I really did volunteer. I would help deliver mail and messages around the building, help raise and lower the flag each day (back when people still did that), and I worked at the Red Cross Thrift Store. I would fold clothes, help count the change in the register, and sort toys (which was my favorite and I did it A LOT!)

   Sometimes people would come into the Thrift Store to shop for fun, sometimes because it was all they could afford (and even as a kid, I could tell), and sometimes people would come in to get things because they had nothing. I still remember a Mom and her two kids that came in one day – they still smelled like smoke, because their house had burned down overnight. They had a note from my Dad that gave some sort of instructions to Helen VanDyke, the 80-year-old woman that ran the Thrift Store most days – and Helen asked me to hold the bag as she loaded up clothes and other things that this family needed. I was only age 8, and about as tall as Mrs. VanDyke, but that image has stayed with me – because it was the first time I saw first-hand just how essential these donations can be. It meant everything to this family who now literally had nothing.

   So I try to donate when I can. Sometimes I have a few things, so I’ll just run a box down. Or after my Annual Garage Sale, the rest of the items are loaded into a truck and hauled down to a Donation Center. So far this summer I’ve already donated 3 truckloads, and another load or two will happen before the snow flies. And it’s good to clear out the space, and it’s good to share my excess, and it’s good to know that I’m helping out someone – like the family I remember so well from that day in my childhood.

Go into the world and do well. 

But more importantly, 

go into the world and do good.